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Tuesday, 22 March 2016

Who is a man.



Who is a man? 

This is a question I have asked myself times with no end, for days I have sat and pondered this mystery. How then does one qualify to be called a man?
Is it a standard to rally to, Is there a criteria that measures the mettle of boys and as a result elevates them to the status of man hood.

For so long we have been led to believe that a man is an adult human male, but I digress. Surely age alone is not enough to earn one this most noble of tittles. Surely not muscle or height, not even wealth or achievement.

A dilemma I say, what then could it be, how best can we evaluate and measure a man.
Should it be by the breadth of one's chest? Should it be evidenced by the appearance of pubic hair? Should we perhaps measure a man, by the size of his genitals? On a light note, If that is the case, then I qualify. Should we perchance, measure a man by the number of ladies one has intercourse with? All the above perhaps are a part of manhood, essentially they are important. But I for one, is of the opinion that they alone, do not, should not, qualify a person to be a Man. The name, man surely embodies more than that.

Therefore, I question again. Who then is a man? I thought deep and pondered long, and because at the end of the day, we can lie to all but ourselves. I realized the following.

A man mustn’t be an adult male, or a person of legal age. Manhood surely should be measured by one's determination to do the best they can with what they have. It should be measured by one’s courage and ability to rise above discrimination, to rise above circumstances. And in the end, rise back from setbacks. Manhood should be measured by one's ability to handle rejection and heartbreak. It should be measured by the goodness of one's heart. Loving self, and loving others.

It should be measured by one's honesty. A person’s ability to face the consequences of his choices and his actions. Manhood should be one's humility, the ability to accept correction.
To know that one cannot always be right. To be able to listen to others.
Being a man is a life style.

So look deep within yourself. And ask. Are you worthy?
Are you a man? Or are you just pretending to be one.

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